By the time you’re reading this, it’s already the last day of 2020. You’re shaking in excitement as you anticipate a fresh new start for your life and for everyone else’s. You’re taking a look at your 2021 planner and can’t help but feel emotional as you ready yourself for more, upgraded challenges that will cut you open.
But before you pour all your energy into bettering yourself, it’s essential you understand that just as any new year, 2021 doesn’t give you a clean slate. The new year doesn’t mean everyone goes back to zero, free from past mistakes and baggage. Your journey will go on, as it always had. Your new year’s traditions will not erase nor will it give you leverage over others. You will still be struggling, and every single day won’t feel as great as the other days. But with your perseverance and concrete goals right in your pockets, you’re one step ahead of making your dreams a reality.
Aside from the obvious reason why 2020 is arguably the worst year ever in your lifetime, you tend to ask yourself, “Has Christmas lost its value in 2020?”
The answer is: NO. Christmas hasn’t lost its value, its zing, its excitement, its intrinsic brightness; it will never lose all the things that make it beautiful. It’s we, who have lost the appreciation and gratitude to see its value. It’s we who have ironically outgrown the idea of Christmas, thinking it’s celebrated solely for kids (leaving no room for the adults to be happy). It’s we who have made self-centered definitions about Christmas that tainted its meaning through our eyes.
Being in a relationship with someone is never smooth-sailing, most especially in the beginning (after all that best foot forward act). Whatever it is that deals with human interaction, it’s never simple. Just because it’s a relationship composed of two good individuals, doesn’t mean both of them are going to have it easy. Every relationship faces arguments and disagreements every now and then, no matter how in sync you think they are.
Like any other relationship, it needs constant understanding and patience from both parties to achieve the desired goal of mutual agreement. The process isn’t going to be pretty; that’s just the way it is. Everybody always wants his/her needs to be met first (and thinks he/she deserves more compromise than the other) and that’s normal for a person to think that way because we’re wired by instinct to cater to our self-interest needs first.
Fake love can’t be fake because one of you is untrue. Your relationship can form a fake love because its foundation is fake from the very core. Both people in the relationship have unreal/impure intentions of being together, and that’s why their broken connection leads them to break themselves in the process. If you don’t filter and fix the problems early on, you’ll likely harvest a fake, toxic persona from your partner and yourself.
Your life is not your own, and how long it’s going to last is beyond your control. What we can do is to make sure we can delay meeting death as much as we can. Most people take for granted how much a single day can impact the rest of your life, and that’s why they are more inclined to fail and lose their way.
Doing consistent small actions will help you achieve success in the long run, no matter how long it will take. Sometimes we overlook the simplest, littlest things because we’re too focused on doing the gigantic, visible actions to show off to other people. We become so obsessed with polishing our image, forgetting to toughen it up on the inside.