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We all meet people for a reason. Whether they’re a blessing or a curse depends on how quickly we realize their true intention or how gravely their impact on our lives. No matter how many times we avoid being in any way affiliated with people whom we know are not good for us, life will interfere and ruin all our efforts. There will always be a reason why you had to meet an asshole and probably be really good friends with him or why you had to lose the only best friend you had after graduating high school.
You cross paths with strangers to spend a couple of years making memories together or only to hate each other throughout all those years. On the other hand, in your life, especially in your twenties, you’ll meet different types of people who may or may not lead you to success. They all serve unique purposes in your life, and for that, you must be grateful whatever it is (even when you don’t see it at first). Whether how long they will last to be your friend or your enemy depends on our God above who controls everything. He never gives us anything we can’t handle. He gives us challenges relating to other people to either strengthen us or to let us realize we have the strength.
Having friends filled with negativity, narcissism, and fear will never be good for yourself and those around you. These types of people will ridicule you and maim every splinter of self-esteem you have in yourself. They will do it so cruelly you may not even bear to stand up back again. So many factors fuel their spite and hate towards you, and some of them may be due to jealousy, insecurity, competition, and many more that fill their heart with darkness. They enjoy the misfortune of others and take advantage of them to the fullest of their ability. To put it plainly, they just don’t want to see you succeed or see you greater than them.
6 TYPES OF PEOPLE WHO CAN LEAD YOU TO SUCCESS:
An optimist is someone who teaches you how to listen to the silence amidst the noise and to see the light amidst the darkness. Usually, an optimist has experienced tough times in his life which made him who he is now. He has a good heart and sincere intentions to help his friends. Having had a fair share of trials, he doesn’t want anybody else to go through the same pain he did, especially those who are important to him. He encourages you to step out of your comfort zone and never ceases to let you see the hidden potential in you.
He is too eager to get you chasing after opportunities and tells you what you need to hear. Also, an optimist gives you hope during your trying times. He paints out a world of fun and laughter; and with him, you don’t get stuck in your thoughts of despair and anxiety. You look forward to a brand new day with a fresher perspective about life. When you’re with an optimist, he makes you forget all your problems in the past and make new lessons in the present. He isn’t afraid to make mistakes and tells you that you shouldn’t be too. He doesn’t make you feel judged or insulted when he talks to you.
A confidante isn’t just your sidekick or comrade on your bad days; he is also that glimmer of happiness on your good days. Someone who stays with you during your downfalls and doesn’t judge you for being there in the first place. He has a lot to say to you but keeps it to himself because he knows you better than to open his mouth without tact.
He keeps quiet and let you explain your side of the story, being sensitive to your feelings. A confidante is someone you can confide in; you can tell all your secrets to him and be reassured that your secret is safe by someone trustworthy. He doesn’t only help you become less upset, frightened, and discouraged but erases the resentment you feel inside.
As much as you want to sew a critic’s mouth shut, you need his harsh pieces of advice and strong intuition more than you think. Most of the time, your decisions are influenced by pressure from your competitors or from the very people who instill the pressure on you. A critic not only tells you you’re wrong but tells you why you’re wrong. He tells you aggressively that you’re making the wrong choices and paints scenarios of consequences in your head should you not listen to his advice.
You get angry at him most of the time because you think he doesn’t truly support you but he does. He just has his way of showing his love and that’s through straightforward constructive criticism, even when you didn’t ask. He doesn’t criticize you out of ego but deep concern for you. You don’t like the way he delivers his concern but sometimes you have to admit that when push comes to shove, you need someone with a tough mouth to bring you back to yourself.
The ambitious can lead you to success not only by his words but by example. He lives an admirable life, works hard, and doesn’t settle for less than what he dreams. He has his ambitions and his drive to achieve them will influence you greater than it influences himself. He is deeply committed to his routine and encourages you to do the same with your life. Also, he corrects your bad habits when he sees them and suggests better, safer alternatives in replacement. He gets hurt when he sees his friends do harmful choices and continues to remind them even when he gets hated for it.
He couldn’t care less about what people think and thinks only of his growth and progress. He is often met with challenges but his perseverance shines in every failure. The ambitious doesn’t cut his routine even when he’s demotivated or when something ruined his plans entirely. He looks for quick solutions and tries his best to get back on track with the same determined mindset. He isn’t stingy when sharing his tips and advice to reaching daily success because he desires to share his ambitions to more people as possible. He is an icon and an inspiration to you and to everyone who believes in him.
Like the critic, he shows and tells you when you’re way too above your head. He isn’t the type of person who exaggerates or sugarcoats the quality of a person, object, event, opportunity, etc. He keeps everything about him real, including his decisions and expectations. He brings you back to reality and keeps you humble. The realistic reminds you when you’re creating way too impossible expectations in your head again and helps you make feasible ones.
He paints a fairly accurate representation of the world, and even if it gets ugly, you know what he’s saying is true. The evil and cunning rule the world, so you must be prepared to meet them. He will tell you the possible scenarios that you would want to avoid to stay away from further trouble; thus, you will become more meticulous about your choices and those who will be affected by them.
The principled keeps your feet on the ground. While you’re on the bumpy road to success, he constantly reminds you of your value and character and prays you won’t lose yourself along the way. He may seem like a killjoy but he doesn’t fail to show you between right and wrong. He isn’t one that makes irresponsible, impulsive decisions because he always has something to refer to.
He may not always have the same moral principles as you but at least you can learn to identify the factors that you need to consider before making decisions. During times of temptation, you would opt to go for the most convenient or more self-serving choice of all even at the expense of others because you’re too blinded to mind their pleas. When this inevitably happens, your principled friend will help you clear your clouded judgment and make the right decision not only for yourself but for others.
These six types of people are not easy to find. They might even be the enemies you try so hard to avoid; you never know. They can be your ex friends or your siblings. Remember to be like the person you’re looking for; you can’t attract someone with desirable qualities if you’re not desirable yourself. But if you’re not into making friends, whatever your reasons may be, you can be all these types of personalities to yourself.
If you want to excel in your ambition, you need to separate yourself from them. You have to break free from their words and actions that distract you from keeping focus. You have to keep moving forward. You have to stop letting them pull you down. You have to find your own set of friends and be the same kind of good friend to them. You have to build a friendship so strong and stable that you don’t need to find other people for companionship.
“A true friend is someone who thinks that you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked.”Bernard Meltzer