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Confident people know themselves from the inside out. They are sure of their abilities and skills but are not arrogant about them. They don’t usually cave in around people who try to trick them into selling out their integrity in exchange for temporary approval. Nor do they surround themselves with people who have the leverage to instantly turn their life around. Confident people are relaxed and secure about their choices and know what they’re good at and what they’re not good at, and they’re not ashamed of either. From a confident person’s state of mind, his ability to troubleshoot scenarios without looking down on himself will take him places.
When I was in high school, I looked up to many confident people who were invited to speak in conferences and seminars in school. By the time I met them, they were already successful in their respective fields. They had a similar style in clothing and fashion. They were eloquent in speaking and good at handling people. All eyes were on them, and they seemed very happy with where they are right now. At first, I thought confidence was something they inherit from their parents (because most of them came from well-off families). There was a fire in their eyes that said they still had more to offer.
Coming from someone who rejected opportunities and steered clear of potentially life-changing experiences, I wanted what they have. I wanted to step out of my comfort zone and make choices without any inhibition. I wanted to be just like one of them. As a young woman, I had dreams of my own. But as I said, they were only dreams.
There was no risk-taking or any affirmative call to action I did to back up my dreams. I had no intention of sacrificing or giving generous time for my aspirations. I didn’t feel the sense of urgency to search for my passion and fight for it. Perhaps all of this came from a place of fear, and that is why almost everything seemed impossible.
Now that I’m in my twenties, I learned to be fiercer in pursuit of my goals. I realized I needed to be resilient when obstacles hold me back because they wouldn’t be leaving anyway. Grit, passion to conviction, and determination are the three qualities that made them who they are. Confidence isn’t only an innate personal attribute. It is a characteristic that can either be strived for, learned, and imitated from people who have used confidence as a springboard to attain their goals.
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8 THINGS EVERY CONFIDENT PERSON BELIEVES IN:
THERE’S NO FEAR IN MAKING MISTAKES
Confident people are perceptive in their setbacks. They don’t see failure as an obstacle to their goals, per se. They see them as an opportunity to learn something meaningful that can change their entire life. They believe that it’s through failure that we see success because it’s in discomfort and struggle that we transform ourselves. Confident people have no room for fear to prevail in their minds. They know that in the end, everything will work out in favor of them.
People with low confidence think the opposite. They easily crumble apart when their ideas don’t go as planned because to them, “If it can’t be perfect, then don’t do it.” Every mistake they make is a reason to get stressed about. They get so caught in executing error-free, so they never enjoy what they’re doing. They always assume bad things to happen in the future because the one thing that never leaves their mind is negativity over passion.
EVERYONE STANDS ON UNEQUAL FOOTING
Confident people acknowledge that everyone goes through something in his life, therefore, no one is “born perfect.” They don’t believe mistakes are an act of weakness because everyone has disadvantages. Everyone’s got baggage. Everyone’s got secrets. Everyone’s got regrets. There’s no shame in admitting your past mistakes or shortcomings because we all have these.
Comparing yourself to other people is not the right way to measure the level of success, happiness, etc. All people have different upbringing, personalities, relationships, and all these factors influence how quick they are to achieving their goals. A confident person wouldn’t dwell on the competition because he only cares about improving himself.
BEING YOURSELF IS THE ONLY WAY TO STAND OUT
Only a confident person would believe that being utterly yourself is the secret to be original. Confident people care about creating their own style and work of art. Even when they are aware of their flaws, they refuse to let them define them. They would rather be their embrace their weaknesses than be some perfect other. When you stop trying to be someone else, you outshine the people who live pretentiously.
You live every day finding new ways to level up yourself without selling out your integrity as a person. This quality of being unapologetically yourself separates you from the rest, and this makes you special. Anything that comes out of your heart without any reservations— that’s who you are on the inside.
EVERYONE HAS A PURPOSE
Being confident means understanding that all people have their calling, their destiny. Confident people respect everyone else’s purpose in life. They don’t interfere with others’ goals even if they may be similar to theirs. They strongly believe that what’s meant to be will happen. When you help other people in their journey to their goals instead of pulling them back down, you feel that sense of altruism and accomplishment combined.
If your help to others made them achieve their dreams, your selfless gesture would also lean you towards making your dreams a reality. Your self-confidence shines brighter when you’re not dimming others’ light. Unconfident people always pit themselves against other people to prove something. Their journey has nothing to do with yours so being insecure about it is pointless.
A PERSON WHO BUILDS CONFIDENCE ATTRACTS ENEMIES BUT IS NEVER INTIMIDATED BY THEM
Confidence is a rare yet powerful characteristic. Confident people know the risks of the confidence they have. It’s normal to attract enemies when you grow to love yourself because many people are desperate to be in that state of mind. Someone who continually uplifts himself by celebrating his small wins and choosing to see the good in every situation is more likely to build confidence faster than those who don’t. Once you’ve mastered the art of confidence, you won’t ever be scared by anyone else. You don’t consider other people’s hate as a form of attack but a sign of weakness on their part.
GENUINE SELF CARE IS THE SECRET TO GENUINE CONFIDENCE
When you truly take care of yourself physically, mentally, socially, emotionally, you are more confident to explore the world. You are knowledgeable of your worth and value as a person, so you don’t need people or material things to satisfy your need for validation. When you make it a habit to check on yourself and evaluate your choices, you are wary of the people you surround yourself with and the relationships you form with them. You’re not risking your health and mental state for instant gratification because you don’t need society’s view of success to define your success and happiness.
YOU ARE NOT THEIR OPINION OF YOU
A confident person believes that anyone else’s opinion of you does not reflect who you are. No one else but you knows the truth about yourself so don’t let them define you. People have little to no idea about what goes in your mind or what your next move may be. There’s no reason to be anxious about what they think of you because it doesn’t and shouldn’t have to affect you in any way unless you let them. Their assumptions of you do not reflect who you are. They’re just meaningless thoughts and words disguised as criticism and jealousy. Whatever they may think of you speaks more about them than you.
YOU HAVE A GIFT TO SHARE WITH THE WORLD
Confident people face every day with their heads held high. They know that they have a gift, the potential to change the world for the better in their way. They spend no time competing with other people because everyone has a chance to show the world what they got. They spend their time and energy honing their skills instead of sabotaging others. They don’t feel jealous or insecure when someone is better at what they do because they are at peace with the fact that no one in this world can do it like them. Confident people don’t back down from opportunities, and in the event that they are not presented with one, they make their own.
There’s one thing in common among confident people, and that’s their ability to make their choices according to their worth. They do not make rash decisions nor are they easily provoked by the criticism of others. All their life, they have learned to cancel out the voices that lead them to fear and doubt. May we all learn a thing or two about how confident people obtain and process their thoughts, as well as how they deal with their decision-making processes in every situation.
When you learn to become confident, you won’t settle for less than what you deserve. You’re aware of your capabilities and flaws, and you are not afraid to make a choice to ascend their lives using them. Also, you will be grateful for everything you have while embracing personal growth with every chance you get. Confident people never shy away from challenges. They’re in for the experience, not necessarily the desired result.
“Believe in your infinite potential. Your only limitations are those you set upon yourself.”Roy T. Bennett