Before you can train your mind to gradually translate your interpretation of failure into something advantageous, you need to know that failure, regardless of the intensity, happens to everybody all the time. In whatever you do, it is fundamental that you learn to manage your emotions so you wouldn’t be too easily carried away when they are tested.
For instance, when you’re faced with setbacks that make you disappointed for not meeting your expectations, don’t be discouraged. Don’t make it your first thought to give up because of one momentarily loss. Believe me, you’ll encounter much more when you’ve surpassed the first few tests. Failures crush your self-esteem because it needs to be crushed. Like all natural things in the world, we, humans, are no exception. We need to be struck with the most pain to appreciate the most joy.
It’s more than a rewarding feeling; it’s a manifestation of the journey you’ve been through to reach that mark. We need to make ourselves feel good when we know we’ve put in all the work and not just rely on the praises of others. By celebrating, we will motivate ourselves to do better because we now have something to look forward to.
They say your twenties are the most difficult, free, confusing, upsetting time of your life. People say have fun, some say save and invest, while others say go where the wind takes you. If you don’t start taking control of your decisions at your own pace, you will feel forced and rigid when doing your work. That will go a long, exhausting way until you become a slave of your own poor choices. Eventually, you wouldn’t be able to rise above your failures because you’re used to being disappointed. Start deciding for yourself. Start making your own independent choices.
In your twenties, it’s without a doubt that you’ll experience those rare inner peace breakthroughs that make you change your perspective about life. When that time comes, you’ll reaffirm that age doesn’t truly determine maturity. It comes with experience and reflection that you’ll realize you’ve grown.
With this being said, what are the instances that make you grow? What are the signs that can make you say you’ve grown wiser? And when you indeed encounter these exceptional moments of your life, what do you do about it? Is this a once-in-a-lifetime moment, or do you intend to instill and share these insights to your family and friends? As you’re still on the starting line, you may not be totally convinced with your plans right now, you’ll realize what you’re yearning for what can’t be bought with money.
Before you act out of impulse, train yourself to remain calm in situations like these. When you’re confronted with unsolicited criticism from people (especially those whom you don’t expect to hear from at all), understand that you don’t control what others have to say about you. Even if you live a life worth emulating, you won’t always get the feedback you think you deserve to hear. You can’t please everyone, and convincing yourself you are an exception will only burn you out. People will always have something to say, that’s just the way it is.