When you’re stuck, you have to move to get out of it. It’s that simple. Everyone is dealing with his unparalleled battles, and most are doing it very poorly. Aside from the obvious obstacle of not knowing what to do in their life, it’s a high possibility that they’re not doing anything about it. They spend their days feeding their ego in their imaginations but they never muster the bravery to execute their plans.
They never find the urgent need to start. Remember that whenever you feel stuck in life, there can only be three logical explanations for it: (1) you’re too lazy to work on what you want. You’re waiting for someone to pull you from the ground, (2) you’re beating yourself way too hard with no sleep and no proper nutrition that’s affecting both your physical and mental state, or (3) you’re living a life that you can’t call your own.
F.O.M.O stands for “fear of missing out.” It’s a trendy slang referring to the anxious feeling of a person who believes his friends or peers are currently enjoying each other’s company in his absence. A person who’s experiencing this social anxiety yearns to always be connected or updated by what others are doing. He doesn’t want to “miss out” on the fun and fulfilling moments of other people, and usually insists he’s being hated and isolated by them. A common factor that triggers this feeling is the spontaneity and fabrication of the definition of “fun” in social media which impacts the behavior and mental health of the users who witness it.
Every person’s worst nightmare is when his plans don’t end up as he expected. There’s nothing more frustrating than going against all odds to risk your resources and pride for your dreams but not meeting the desired outcome. Aside from feeling disappointed in yourself, you would feel stupid and pathetic for going through all that trouble only to go back from scratch, or worse, move the finish line farther away.
Your ego is hurt because your sincere efforts are put to waste, and you don’t want anybody to know you failed. You start keeping your adversity as a secret to protect your reputation, and this is one of the reasons you won’t grow. Clouds of negative thought hover over the little hope and then you start taking in the doubts to break you even harder. Little do you know, you start believing all these other voices and thinking maybe you’re a fool for chasing after your dream.
We all have those days when we feel like nothing when we get too good at telling ourselves we’re never going to be good enough. The feeling of worthlessness doesn’t come instantly; it’s rather an accumulation of negative feelings that come usually during a bad day and sumps up when we’ve reached the limit of what we can tolerate in our self-esteem. This feeling is very common in your twenties and it hits you where you least expect it. There will come a day when everyone around you got everything they wanted, and their happiness just causes you pain, and you hate yourself for it.
One way or another, that feeling of being unworthy of everything is bound to happen, and there’s no way you can prepare for it. Strangely, some people experienced getting that feeling when they’re only a few steps away from achieving their goal and unfortunately, gave up. It’s so powerful, most are willing to throw away years of grinding and hustling to that voice of deceit.
Keeping your goals strictly confidential to yourself or within the bounds of your most trusted few is a smart move everybody should follow. Given the fact that your goals are closely tied with your identity, it’s best to keep it to yourself until the right time comes. A lot of people overshare their goals with strangers or to those whom they want to impress for whatever reasons and it puts them to more harm.
What happens is they prioritize their hunger for self-recognition more than the act of making that goal more than just a dream. This means that by proclaiming your ambitions, the mind would think you’ve already accomplished your goal because it prefers the good hormones that come out of it than having to work extremely hard (even when that’s what you’re supposed to do).