Among all else, the ultimate secret to living a quiet and peaceful life is to put God in the center of your life. When you have a strong foundation of beliefs and values, you have more control over your actions and choices. Peace is found when you’re self-aware of what you want and how you want to achieve it without needing to ask for anybody else’s input. It’s found when you truly love yourself despite your wounds and scars. If you live for someone else’s expectations, that’s a clear sign that you’re unhappy and at war with yourself.
Everyone has a bad side in them just as everyone has a good side. Who we are depends on Our whole system of beliefs and philosophies is built from our past encounters and choices that got us to where we are now. Among these are toxic habits that we picked up throughout our life that need to be challenged and erased. These are habits we’re ashamed of doing but don’t notice when we’re practicing them.
When we were kids, everything was easy. We didn’t have to take accountability for our actions. We were spoiled, sheltered, and protected from the horrors of the world. But as we grew older, we began to know and understand things. We became more curious about the whys and hows of the world, and what it has to do with us. And most of all, we started experiencing tough situations we haven’t encountered before. This left room for mistakes like associating with people who are not good for us. The longer we open our doors for them, the more we get sucked into their world.
Keep in mind that guilt isn’t always an indicator that you’ve done something wrong. Sometimes, guilt means you’ve finally done something brave and out of the ordinary. Other times, the guilt you feel is disguised as the sense of accomplishment or responsibility for the actions you’ve taken. It leans toward the feeling of guilt because it’s attached with fear; otherwise, it would feel like pure confidence and relief. Don’t allow that lingering guilt to engulf you. Learn why you’re feeling guilty and what’s causing you to feel such.
Feeling unappreciated and taken for granted can cut a deep wound in your self-esteem. As the pain gets deeper, your sense of worth and identity will follow. Your lack of appreciation can make you question who you are and what you’ve done in your life. When all you receive are negative criticisms and unappreciation, you can easily fall into depression. We feel unappreciated because deep inside, we have expectations that haven’t been met.
Healthy relationships are formed not because both persons in it are good-natured and perfect. They are created because two people chose to work it out despite the odds. All relationships have series of challenges to go through, no exemption. They have their ups and downs. It takes intention, compromise, love, and commitment to take care of your relationship.