When you’re on the verge of melting down, after realizing you have lost so much, hold onto the fact that life is a cycle. What you have lost may be replaced with something better or something totally that you’re not expecting. Hold onto the hope that things will get better because eventually, they will. Your life may not seem the same as it was before you lose that something or someone, but it’s okay because you don’t have to return to that phase of your life. That loss is a necessary milestone for you to move forward without carrying the baggage of the past.
One of the main causes of a person’s unhappiness is the inability to recover from a mistake. We have made so many choices in our lives, but not all of them are good ones. We all have our share of embarrassing, devastating, and life-changing mistakes that we could never take back. Some we regret until we die, some we learn to accept. Over time, we ponder on our decisions and wish we hadn’t done them as we cry ourselves to sleep. Once your insecurities get the better of you, you’re going to be afraid to make shortcomings, and sooner, afraid to take risks. These regrets of the past are limiting our beliefs and capabilities turning over a new leaf, therefore, preventing us to grow. The deeper we dwell on our mistakes, the less motivated we are in embracing our flaws. And little as we know it, we’ve already lost respect for ourselves; and that is the worst mistake of all.
There is no top secret or magic formula to getting ahead in life. Each and everyone’s unique beginnings can be a challenge to pursuing our goals because there is no equal playing field to stand on. Some are born with the wealth to catapult them to instant success, while some can only take advantage of very limited resources. Either way, success depends more on work ethic and grit rather than the abundance of your resources. The sky is the limit for successful people because they do what the majority of people are too scared to do.
We need to remember that achievement is not and never will be bound by age. A lot of people start seeing results in their careers late. But just because it takes so long to do, that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. You can achieve anything you put your mind to, even if it means breaking some barriers that are meant to hold you back. All our achievements begin with a confident and tenacious mindset. You have to convince your mind you can achieve your dream. Forcing yourself to achieve a particular milestone you have to reach by 30, 40, and so on, only slows you down. Although a good amount of pressure can help, having this thinking only gives you weak motivation.
As scary as being at your breaking point may be, make a conscious effort not to be easily provoked. Remember, the key to winning is to stay calm and listen to your mind. When facing a critical point in your relationship, how you react defines the outcome. Whether your relationship with your family or friends works out or not depends on you, not on anybody else. So, if what you want is to sort out all the obstacles and not to lose something you treasure deeply, don’t let your emotions get the best of you. Pride is the worst enemy that you can’t easily shrug off your back.