To be in the season of waiting is one of the most daunting situations to be. We never know what awaits us in the future, but then we have no choice but to take a risk to get the slightest chance of a better one. Waiting is hard because people are innately selfish. Our very nature shows that we are entitled to meeting our every want and need sooner than others. We want to receive something at the exact time we want; otherwise, we get frustrated and upset. We create these ridiculous expectations but don’t have the discipline to work hard for them persistently. It is because we would rather talk big than act big. Most of us fall into the trap of more talk, less execution.
Among all else, the ultimate secret to living a quiet and peaceful life is to put God in the center of your life. When you have a strong foundation of beliefs and values, you have more control over your actions and choices. Peace is found when you’re self-aware of what you want and how you want to achieve it without needing to ask for anybody else’s input. It’s found when you truly love yourself despite your wounds and scars. If you live for someone else’s expectations, that’s a clear sign that you’re unhappy and at war with yourself.
When you feel insecure, remember that building confidence is a journey. It takes time to love yourself, to see past your scars and mistakes. But it won’t help if you keep tearing apart any form or progress of growth. It’s not enough to want to be confident, you have to apply it in your life by seizing once-in-a-lifetime opportunities.
Keep in mind that guilt isn’t always an indicator that you’ve done something wrong. Sometimes, guilt means you’ve finally done something brave and out of the ordinary. Other times, the guilt you feel is disguised as the sense of accomplishment or responsibility for the actions you’ve taken. It leans toward the feeling of guilt because it’s attached with fear; otherwise, it would feel like pure confidence and relief. Don’t allow that lingering guilt to engulf you. Learn why you’re feeling guilty and what’s causing you to feel such.
Feeling unappreciated and taken for granted can cut a deep wound in your self-esteem. As the pain gets deeper, your sense of worth and identity will follow. Your lack of appreciation can make you question who you are and what you’ve done in your life. When all you receive are negative criticisms and unappreciation, you can easily fall into depression. We feel unappreciated because deep inside, we have expectations that haven’t been met.