It’s no secret that our twenties are a confusing time for all of us. As long as we’re breathing, we will always have that nagging voice inside our heads that symbolizes the struggle of finding the right balance of things. The moment we reach the second decade of our lives, suddenly a majestic wave of advice and lecture will come at us from “adults” who project their insecurities and doubts on us.
They preach to us what should and what shouldn’t be done, tell us what we’re capable of and what we shouldn’t risk doing. Whether we like to admit it or not, most of these adults are very close and dear to us. These are the people who have known us since we were a baby and apparently have witnessed our journey to mistakes, opportunities, and life-changing experiences. It’s hard to compete with someone who knows you more than you know yourself.
When you’re stuck, you have to move to get out of it. It’s that simple. Everyone is dealing with his unparalleled battles, and most are doing it very poorly. Aside from the obvious obstacle of not knowing what to do in their life, it’s a high possibility that they’re not doing anything about it. They spend their days feeding their ego in their imaginations but they never muster the bravery to execute their plans.
They never find the urgent need to start. Remember that whenever you feel stuck in life, there can only be three logical explanations for it: (1) you’re too lazy to work on what you want. You’re waiting for someone to pull you from the ground, (2) you’re beating yourself way too hard with no sleep and no proper nutrition that’s affecting both your physical and mental state, or (3) you’re living a life that you can’t call your own.
F.O.M.O stands for “fear of missing out.” It’s a trendy slang referring to the anxious feeling of a person who believes his friends or peers are currently enjoying each other’s company in his absence. A person who’s experiencing this social anxiety yearns to always be connected or updated by what others are doing. He doesn’t want to “miss out” on the fun and fulfilling moments of other people, and usually insists he’s being hated and isolated by them. A common factor that triggers this feeling is the spontaneity and fabrication of the definition of “fun” in social media which impacts the behavior and mental health of the users who witness it.
Being anxious prevents us from thinking clearly and making rational decisions efficiently. It steals away our opportunity for growth and every chance we have at peace of mind. Moreover, it creates imaginary problems out of the wheel of negativity running in our heads the entire day. Being in this state of mind causes stress physically and mentally, and most times, we are in this position because we don’t know how to avoid instances like this, or we don’t know how to get out of this uneasy situation.
In your twenties, you get anxious about possibly everything. You want things to go smoothly, exactly according to the way we want (but you know it won’t happen, and even if it will, it wouldn’t last very long). Your expectations in your life and the world you live in contribute a huge factor as to why you’re always pressuring yourself to be everything to everybody. You want to make a difference in the lives of those around you, but you also want to be the best in your field no matter what it takes (and the harsh irony here is: you can’t have the best of both worlds).
When you’re feeling overwhelmed with the pressure of failing your family’s expectations or wanting to fulfill your ambition earlier, you can drown in your own thoughts. You’re thinking too far from the future that you forsake the present and everything will seem like it’s not working out because whenever you think about something positive, you argue with yourself.
When you’re overwhelmed, your insecurities from the inside start to reveal and crush your self-esteem even further until you don’t seem to find it anymore. When you’re overwhelmed, you don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel; in fact, you doubt there is an end to all the pain you’re feeling. You think everybody’s counting on you but you’re destined to fail.