When you feel insecure, remember that building confidence is a journey. It takes time to love yourself, to see past your scars and mistakes. But it won’t help if you keep tearing apart any form or progress of growth. It’s not enough to want to be confident, you have to apply it in your life by seizing once-in-a-lifetime opportunities.
Keeping your goals strictly confidential to yourself or within the bounds of your most trusted few is a smart move everybody should follow. Given the fact that your goals are closely tied with your identity, it’s best to keep it to yourself until the right time comes. A lot of people overshare their goals with strangers or to those whom they want to impress for whatever reasons and it puts them to more harm.
What happens is they prioritize their hunger for self-recognition more than the act of making that goal more than just a dream. This means that by proclaiming your ambitions, the mind would think you’ve already accomplished your goal because it prefers the good hormones that come out of it than having to work extremely hard (even when that’s what you’re supposed to do).
They say your twenties are the most difficult, free, confusing, upsetting time of your life. People say have fun, some say save and invest, while others say go where the wind takes you. If you don’t start taking control of your decisions at your own pace, you will feel forced and rigid when doing your work. That will go a long, exhausting way until you become a slave of your own poor choices. Eventually, you wouldn’t be able to rise above your failures because you’re used to being disappointed. Start deciding for yourself. Start making your own independent choices.