Every person’s worst nightmare is when his plans don’t end up as he expected. There’s nothing more frustrating than going against all odds to risk your resources and pride for your dreams but not meeting the desired outcome. Aside from feeling disappointed in yourself, you would feel stupid and pathetic for going through all that trouble only to go back from scratch, or worse, move the finish line farther away.
Your ego is hurt because your sincere efforts are put to waste, and you don’t want anybody to know you failed. You start keeping your adversity as a secret to protect your reputation, and this is one of the reasons you won’t grow. Clouds of negative thought hover over the little hope and then you start taking in the doubts to break you even harder. Little do you know, you start believing all these other voices and thinking maybe you’re a fool for chasing after your dream.
When you’re feeling overwhelmed with the pressure of failing your family’s expectations or wanting to fulfill your ambition earlier, you can drown in your own thoughts. You’re thinking too far from the future that you forsake the present and everything will seem like it’s not working out because whenever you think about something positive, you argue with yourself.
When you’re overwhelmed, your insecurities from the inside start to reveal and crush your self-esteem even further until you don’t seem to find it anymore. When you’re overwhelmed, you don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel; in fact, you doubt there is an end to all the pain you’re feeling. You think everybody’s counting on you but you’re destined to fail.
It’s essential to learn how to become independent before you turn 20, so you wouldn’t be stuck in a rut when the time comes. You are officially not a teenager which means you have non-teenager priorities now, including some extremely important responsibilities. You need to do things on your own. In your twenties, you have to explore life and discover the realities that have been kept from you by your parents. It sucks to learn from scratch, but it’s part of the learning process.
They say your twenties are the most difficult, free, confusing, upsetting time of your life. People say have fun, some say save and invest, while others say go where the wind takes you. If you don’t start taking control of your decisions at your own pace, you will feel forced and rigid when doing your work. That will go a long, exhausting way until you become a slave of your own poor choices. Eventually, you wouldn’t be able to rise above your failures because you’re used to being disappointed. Start deciding for yourself. Start making your own independent choices.