To avoid stress from entering your life, you need to stop doing things that enable it in the first place. In your twenties, it is crucial to commit to a healthy, well-balanced lifestyle. This involves daily meditation and assessment of your thoughts, emotions, and relationships to practice accountability for your actions. Make it a habit to reflect on the way you handled a situation and assess whether it’s good behavior or a bad one.
One of the main causes of a person’s unhappiness is the inability to recover from a mistake. We all have our share of embarrassing, devastating, and life-changing mistakes in our lives. We have made so many choices, but not all of them are good ones. Over time, we’re going to ponder on our decisions and wish we hadn’t done some of those. Sometimes, we feel mortified for the things we’ve done that we translate our shame into negativity. Once your insecurities get the better of you, you’re going to be afraid to make shortcomings, and sooner, afraid to take risks. These regrets of the past are limiting our beliefs to turning over a new leaf in the present. The deeper we dwell on our mistakes, the less motivated we are to embrace our flaws. Many people are holding themselves back from creating a future they want because they attach their worth to their mistakes.
When life goes south, the circumstances force us to feel helpless and weak. All we see is a never-ending phase of darkness. During these times, we lose confidence in our abilities because we blame ourselves for being in a situation that’s out of our control. It feels like we’re running an endless marathon with the whole world on our shoulders. We stand and watch our future slowly burning before us, and we have no choice but to hope all our problems would disappear. This may seem like the worst nightmare that comes only once for most of us. But for some people, this is real life. This nightmare plays day-in and night, without any hint of stopping.
If you aspire to create a meaningful legacy in your life, you can’t make it come true unless you start. You can’t dream to live the kind of lifestyle you want to be in if you don’t walk through the mud on rainy days. You can’t harvest the fruit if you don’t endure the scorching heat of the sun while planting. The bottom line is, you can’t proceed to the finish line without taking the first step.
Starting from scratch isn’t always the best part, but it is the most crucial part of the journey. The beginning of something may not be able to determine its outcome but it does say something about how it’s going to go. This doesn’t necessarily mean you must already have everything completely planned out before you start, but it is important to strive to set a mark on your first try.
All successful people — the personalities you idolize, the artists you dream to become one day, the people who inspire you to bet on your abilities, all started somewhere. Contrary to what most people speculate, they have gone through numerous hardships of life because they were not given the privilege to start. Finding and developing their talent was not an easy path, but they chose to grab every opportunity they can to capitalize on what they’re born to do.
When you’re stuck, you have to move to get out of it. It’s that simple. Everyone is dealing with his unparalleled battles, and most are doing it very poorly. Aside from the obvious obstacle of not knowing what to do in their life, it’s a high possibility that they’re not doing anything about it. They spend their days feeding their ego in their imaginations but they never muster the bravery to execute their plans.
They never find the urgent need to start. Remember that whenever you feel stuck in life, there can only be three logical explanations for it: (1) you’re too lazy to work on what you want. You’re waiting for someone to pull you from the ground, (2) you’re beating yourself way too hard with no sleep and no proper nutrition that’s affecting both your physical and mental state, or (3) you’re living a life that you can’t call your own.