Being in a happy and healthy relationship means supporting each other and always wanting the best for one another. The butterflies in your stomach come and go, and regardless of how intense they become, feelings alone don’t determine the happiness of your relationship. As long as you keep the romance alive and make ways to make the other happy, your relationship will surely last. Take care of your relationship as if it were an individual being.
It requires forgiveness and willingness to look past the rough roads in your relationship to make it work. Make sure your perspective of a relationship is realistic and not solely grounded on transient feelings. When your partner is wrong, you stick by his side no matter what. But of course, another way to show your loyalty is to tell them where they went wrong so they can improve and do better.
The secret to being happy for others’ success is to have the confidence that you will have your season of success at the right time. It’s accepting the reality that everyone has different timelines in life. It is understanding that clapping for others’ achievements while waiting for yours to happen doesn’t make you small. It is focusing on improving your skills and attitude while going through a series of challenges towards your goals. The whole secret to being open-minded and supportive of your peers’ successes is by discerning that their wins do not take away your chances of succeeding. Just because they’re enjoying the result of their hard work first doesn’t mean you won’t have your time to shine. Remember that patience is a fundamental virtue and is the very foundation of your dreams that takes you places.
We all have those days when we feel like nothing when we get too good at telling ourselves we’re never going to be good enough. The feeling of worthlessness doesn’t come instantly; it’s rather an accumulation of negative feelings that come usually during a bad day and sumps up when we’ve reached the limit of what we can tolerate in our self-esteem. This feeling is very common in your twenties and it hits you where you least expect it. There will come a day when everyone around you got everything they wanted, and their happiness just causes you pain, and you hate yourself for it.
One way or another, that feeling of being unworthy of everything is bound to happen, and there’s no way you can prepare for it. Strangely, some people experienced getting that feeling when they’re only a few steps away from achieving their goal and unfortunately, gave up. It’s so powerful, most are willing to throw away years of grinding and hustling to that voice of deceit.
When you’re feeling overwhelmed with the pressure of failing your family’s expectations or wanting to fulfill your ambition earlier, you can drown in your own thoughts. You’re thinking too far from the future that you forsake the present and everything will seem like it’s not working out because whenever you think about something positive, you argue with yourself.
When you’re overwhelmed, your insecurities from the inside start to reveal and crush your self-esteem even further until you don’t seem to find it anymore. When you’re overwhelmed, you don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel; in fact, you doubt there is an end to all the pain you’re feeling. You think everybody’s counting on you but you’re destined to fail.