Nevertheless, this pandemic broke us so we may be transformed. Little did we know, we were changing for the better albeit slowly. Even in the harshest conditions, there is a comforting prospect waiting for you to notice it. At first, I thought everything was going south and there’s no point to reach my dreams at all, but I was wrong. I was too naïve to realize that this tragedy is a painful yet necessary encounter to clear the obstructions along the way. It had to happen so I could gain insights from this experience that I wouldn’t have gotten elsewhere. It reminded me that this life is transient, so I must make the most of this borrowed time.
Many people out there don’t feel the need to show support to their friends in their course of work because they don’t think their help can make any difference. They underestimate the power of moral and emotional support in someone’s career. A monetary offering isn’t the most important type of support there is. As a friend, you’re one of his support systems and your opinion would surely matter to him.
It’s normal to feel not as excited and devoted as they would to their line of work, but you can make a bigger impact if you would try to be a part of their process instead of only the end result. Whether your friend is a beginner, intermediate, or an expert at what he’s doing, he needs all the support he can get from his friends, and that’s where you come in. If your friend is a singer, go to his gigs.
Over the years, the definition of friendships has changed. From the constant exposure to media, it has displayed to us different portrayals of friendship in various situations. This has made us believe that a friendship must be this, must be that, and if the criteria aren’t met, then you need to reevaluate your friends. This false ideology has tainted our friends and even discouraged us to forge newer bonds because we’re afraid we won’t be able to fulfill the roles of what a friend must be.
When you’re young, you think having lots of friends automatically makes you better and happier than those who have less or none at all. But as you get older, you either realize that they weren’t your friends at all or you had to “lose” them to find yourself. Then you would have thanked yourself for choosing to be brave to let go of people who did not deserve to know you anymore than they have. It may not feel good at the onset of losing them, but someday, you will understand why it had to end.
The ironic thing about friendships in your twenties is you suddenly get the confidence to speak up for what you stand for, what you like, what you think of a certain issue, etc. Back when you were a young teenager, you wouldn’t think you were even allowed to express your opinion about something because you were too afraid your friends would leave you. Now that you’re in your twenties, you become more mindful and conscious of who you share your life with or who you call a friend.
Losing friends is a part of life. Never think of it as a loss if you haven’t seen the big picture. It may not seem good to see a friend slowly drifting away from your life at the moment but it will work out in the end. When you get older, you will find yourself constantly assessing your relationships with other people, may it be with your friends, family, co-workers, and other people you associate with. Evaluating your relationships is a sign that you’re maturing and you’re walking on the road to mastering self-awareness.