Everyone struggles to find the energy and motivation to start, whether it’s doing something new or continuing unfinished work. Life is full of occasions that require you to work on days that you may not find the most excited or “in the mood” to beat deadlines. Despite your exhaustion and burden, you need to move forward. Indeed, getting started is the hardest part. But don’t you worry, you can try again and again.
As you grow older, you will learn to practice discipline in accomplishing your goals regardless of your mood or feeling. Life forces you to become responsible and resilient with your actions because face it, you have no other choice. Sometimes, you just have to deal with your doubts and inhibitions and do the work anyway. It’s not going to be easy, but it’s not impossible. Find a way to break down the physical, emotional, and mental barriers by inserting humor in your work, rewarding yourself after completing a task, or taking a break between busy schedules.
To be in the season of waiting is one of the most daunting situations to be. We never know what awaits us in the future, but then we have no choice but to take a risk to get the slightest chance of a better one. Waiting is hard because people are innately selfish. Our very nature shows that we are entitled to meeting our every want and need sooner than others. We want to receive something at the exact time we want; otherwise, we get frustrated and upset. We create these ridiculous expectations but don’t have the discipline to work hard for them persistently. It is because we would rather talk big than act big. Most of us fall into the trap of more talk, less execution.
It’s no secret that our twenties are a confusing time for all of us. As long as we’re breathing, we will always have that nagging voice inside our heads that symbolizes the struggle of finding the right balance of things. The moment we reach the second decade of our lives, suddenly a majestic wave of advice and lecture will come at us from “adults” who project their insecurities and doubts on us.
They preach to us what should and what shouldn’t be done, tell us what we’re capable of and what we shouldn’t risk doing. Whether we like to admit it or not, most of these adults are very close and dear to us. These are the people who have known us since we were a baby and apparently have witnessed our journey to mistakes, opportunities, and life-changing experiences. It’s hard to compete with someone who knows you more than you know yourself.
We try to view life like it’s one huge to-do list. Our desperate need to control everything goes overboard, and that’s why we tumble on situations that we aren’t supposed to be dealing with in the first place. But don’t worry, we all go through that, even ridiculously successful people in the industry right now. We don’t always know what to do, but that doesn’t make us any less capable of what we’re destined to have. However, it’s still much better to be aware of what’s to come than having not to.
Being anxious prevents us from thinking clearly and making rational decisions efficiently. It steals away our opportunity for growth and every chance we have at peace of mind. Moreover, it creates imaginary problems out of the wheel of negativity running in our heads the entire day. Being in this state of mind causes stress physically and mentally, and most times, we are in this position because we don’t know how to avoid instances like this, or we don’t know how to get out of this uneasy situation.
In your twenties, you get anxious about possibly everything. You want things to go smoothly, exactly according to the way we want (but you know it won’t happen, and even if it will, it wouldn’t last very long). Your expectations in your life and the world you live in contribute a huge factor as to why you’re always pressuring yourself to be everything to everybody. You want to make a difference in the lives of those around you, but you also want to be the best in your field no matter what it takes (and the harsh irony here is: you can’t have the best of both worlds).