To avoid stress from entering your life, you need to stop doing things that enable it in the first place. In your twenties, it is crucial to commit to a healthy, well-balanced lifestyle. This involves daily meditation and assessment of your thoughts, emotions, and relationships to practice accountability for your actions. Make it a habit to reflect on the way you handled a situation and assess whether it’s good behavior or a bad one.
Stress comes in many forms when we’re under an extreme amount of pressure. At any age, we are no strangers to stress. But as we grow, the more susceptible we are to the littlest scenarios that cause us stress since the expectations we have put on our shoulders are getting heavier and ridiculous. In our twenties, this ridiculous internal pressure to become successful in the quickest way possible is intense. We constantly feel the need to work since taking a break is considered an act of weakness.
To be in the season of waiting is one of the most daunting situations to be. We never know what awaits us in the future, but then we have no choice but to take a risk to get the slightest chance of a better one. Waiting is hard because people are innately selfish. Our very nature shows that we are entitled to meeting our every want and need sooner than others. We want to receive something at the exact time we want; otherwise, we get frustrated and upset. We create these ridiculous expectations but don’t have the discipline to work hard for them persistently. It is because we would rather talk big than act big. Most of us fall into the trap of more talk, less execution.
Among all else, the ultimate secret to living a quiet and peaceful life is to put God in the center of your life. When you have a strong foundation of beliefs and values, you have more control over your actions and choices. Peace is found when you’re self-aware of what you want and how you want to achieve it without needing to ask for anybody else’s input. It’s found when you truly love yourself despite your wounds and scars. If you live for someone else’s expectations, that’s a clear sign that you’re unhappy and at war with yourself.
Being toxic is not an innate human nature or a label to someone’s outlook in life. We are all capable of being toxic for we are all capable of feeling shame, guilt, fear, selfishness, etc. The toxicity of a person can stem from these negative emotions, and without willing intervention, the harder it is to regain oneself.