Entering a relationship is your choice and it should still be yours if you leave. Your fate should not suffer because other people think leaving him is the wrong decision to make. If the breaking up is mutual, think about what’s best for both of you, but if it’s not, prioritize your well-being first. Don’t ever let someone pressure you into doing something so personal and sensitive. An outsider’s opinion on your relationship is irrelevant and insignificant simply because he is not the one who committed nor is he a part of the highs and lows; therefore, he has no right to speculate.
A toxic relationship can be in any shape or form, and it can look differently for each one of us. Some may label a toxic relationship only when physical violence is involved while some may argue otherwise. Others would think a relationship becomes toxic only when cheating is involved. Regardless of how one would define and measure the degree of toxicity in a relationship, if you’re in it, you still lose one way or another. It’s hard to admit that an outsider’s opinion is true because it makes you feel stupid and naïve for not realizing you’re a victim in your relationship.
Being in a relationship with someone is never smooth-sailing, most especially in the beginning (after all that best foot forward act). Whatever it is that deals with human interaction, it’s never simple. Just because it’s a relationship composed of two good individuals, doesn’t mean both of them are going to have it easy. Every relationship faces arguments and disagreements every now and then, no matter how in sync you think they are.
Like any other relationship, it needs constant understanding and patience from both parties to achieve the desired goal of mutual agreement. The process isn’t going to be pretty; that’s just the way it is. Everybody always wants his/her needs to be met first (and thinks he/she deserves more compromise than the other) and that’s normal for a person to think that way because we’re wired by instinct to cater to our self-interest needs first.
The secret to having a long-lasting romantic relationship is to be mutually good and true to one another. Recognize your role in the relationship and be committed to it. You have to be openly vulnerable to your other half as you’re vulnerable to yourself. Ever wondered why you couldn’t maintain a relationship for at least a year? If you find yourself always getting into a new relationship, it would either be you’re not ready to be in one or you’re choosing the wrong person for you.
As you enter your twenties, one of your the plans that cross your mind will probably be finding a good partner for life. At some point in this new chapter of your life, you want to meet and be with a person who will love and stay with you despite the ugly parts of yourself. You want to invest in a person who’ll fight for you and support all your goals in life. You want to finally make a decision to settle with someone who’ll be there when you need a shoulder to cry on. Your other half, as they say.