Feeling behind in life can be a sign that you feel lost in your direction. You are either confused or distracted by which way to go, because of the obstacles that persuade you to lose your way. Remember why you started, why you made this choice in the first place. Remember the reasons that were once more important and more powerful than your fears.
It’s important to understand life is not a race or a competition of any sort. Amidst all the confusion and stress, there is a silver lining in the feeling of falling behind in life. What they don’t tell you is you are actually propelling much faster in life in your speed contrary to what you think others perceive about your life. When you start to feel uneasy and uncomfortable about your situation right now, the urge to change your life is more than powerful. This sense of conviction not only has the strength to pull you out from your episodes of analysis paralysis but also to pave a new way of direction.
Waiting is tiresome and frustrating. So many thoughts come to mind when you don’t know what to expect. It is never easy, but it is necessary. Uncertain times are always present. They are there to test our patience and perseverance to keep going, and without these difficulties, we have no way of measuring our strengths. Our dreams do not come true once we believe or manifest them to come alive.
When we wait, we wait for God’s intercession. We trust in His perfect timing and do not demand Him to fit His plans according to ours. When we wait, we accept the unpredictability of life— how tables can turn in a blink of an eye, when you least expect it. We fully surrender our cares and worries to God, because He is the creator and designer of our fate.
Feeling unappreciated and taken for granted can cut a deep wound in your self-esteem. As the pain gets deeper, your sense of worth and identity will follow. Your lack of appreciation can make you question who you are and what you’ve done in your life. When all you receive are negative criticisms and unappreciation, you can easily fall into depression. We feel unappreciated because deep inside, we have expectations that haven’t been met.
It’s no secret that our twenties are a confusing time for all of us. As long as we’re breathing, we will always have that nagging voice inside our heads that symbolizes the struggle of finding the right balance of things. The moment we reach the second decade of our lives, suddenly a majestic wave of advice and lecture will come at us from “adults” who project their insecurities and doubts on us.
They preach to us what should and what shouldn’t be done, tell us what we’re capable of and what we shouldn’t risk doing. Whether we like to admit it or not, most of these adults are very close and dear to us. These are the people who have known us since we were a baby and apparently have witnessed our journey to mistakes, opportunities, and life-changing experiences. It’s hard to compete with someone who knows you more than you know yourself.
Before you can train your mind to gradually translate your interpretation of failure into something advantageous, you need to know that failure, regardless of the intensity, happens to everybody all the time. In whatever you do, it is fundamental that you learn to manage your emotions so you wouldn’t be too easily carried away when they are tested.
For instance, when you’re faced with setbacks that make you disappointed for not meeting your expectations, don’t be discouraged. Don’t make it your first thought to give up because of one momentarily loss. Believe me, you’ll encounter much more when you’ve surpassed the first few tests. Failures crush your self-esteem because it needs to be crushed. Like all natural things in the world, we, humans, are no exception. We need to be struck with the most pain to appreciate the most joy.