Over the years, the definition of friendships has changed. From the constant exposure to media, it has displayed to us different portrayals of friendship in various situations. This has made us believe that a friendship must be this, must be that, and if the criteria aren’t met, then you need to reevaluate your friends. This false ideology has tainted our friends and even discouraged us to forge newer bonds because we’re afraid we won’t be able to fulfill the roles of what a friend must be.
Being in a relationship with someone is never smooth-sailing, most especially in the beginning (after all that best foot forward act). Whatever it is that deals with human interaction, it’s never simple. Just because it’s a relationship composed of two good individuals, doesn’t mean both of them are going to have it easy. Every relationship faces arguments and disagreements every now and then, no matter how in sync you think they are.
Like any other relationship, it needs constant understanding and patience from both parties to achieve the desired goal of mutual agreement. The process isn’t going to be pretty; that’s just the way it is. Everybody always wants his/her needs to be met first (and thinks he/she deserves more compromise than the other) and that’s normal for a person to think that way because we’re wired by instinct to cater to our self-interest needs first.
When writing a novel, the hardest part of the process as an amateur writer is undoubtedly the writing of drafts. It’s already hard enough to allow your story to come to life, but the people’s unrealistic assumptions about what a draft should look like make it even harder. Here are some of the wildest assumptions about first drafts:
A draft should contain the proper structure and plot.
A draft should be perfectly written.
A draft should have the right grammar, spelling, verb tense, etc.
Good drafts do not need any revisions.
Successful and experienced authors write first drafts as perfect as the final revision.