One of the main causes of a person’s unhappiness is the inability to recover from a mistake. We have made so many choices in our lives, but not all of them are good ones. We all have our share of embarrassing, devastating, and life-changing mistakes that we could never take back. Some we regret until we die, some we learn to accept. Over time, we ponder on our decisions and wish we hadn’t done them as we cry ourselves to sleep. Once your insecurities get the better of you, you’re going to be afraid to make shortcomings, and sooner, afraid to take risks. These regrets of the past are limiting our beliefs and capabilities turning over a new leaf, therefore, preventing us to grow. The deeper we dwell on our mistakes, the less motivated we are in embracing our flaws. And little as we know it, we’ve already lost respect for ourselves; and that is the worst mistake of all.
Accountability entails acknowledgment of your lapses. It means owning up to your mistakes even when it’s embarrassing and scary. Accountability means having the courage to say it’s your fault and to accept all the necessary consequences to come at you in the same degree of pain you’ve caused them.
Accountability means showing respect for your words and deeds by owning them and fixing the consequences if necessary. When you hold yourself accountable, it means you’re living in integrity. What you do when nobody else is looking measures how truthful you are. Accountability shows whether your beliefs, values, and attitudes are aligned with your morals and principles.
We try to view life like it’s one huge to-do list. Our desperate need to control everything goes overboard, and that’s why we tumble on situations that we aren’t supposed to be dealing with in the first place. But don’t worry, we all go through that, even ridiculously successful people in the industry right now. We don’t always know what to do, but that doesn’t make us any less capable of what we’re destined to have. However, it’s still much better to be aware of what’s to come than having not to.
Every person’s worst nightmare is when his plans don’t end up as he expected. There’s nothing more frustrating than going against all odds to risk your resources and pride for your dreams but not meeting the desired outcome. Aside from feeling disappointed in yourself, you would feel stupid and pathetic for going through all that trouble only to go back from scratch, or worse, move the finish line farther away.
Your ego is hurt because your sincere efforts are put to waste, and you don’t want anybody to know you failed. You start keeping your adversity as a secret to protect your reputation, and this is one of the reasons you won’t grow. Clouds of negative thought hover over the little hope and then you start taking in the doubts to break you even harder. Little do you know, you start believing all these other voices and thinking maybe you’re a fool for chasing after your dream.