One of the main causes of a person’s unhappiness is the inability to recover from a mistake. We have made so many choices in our lives, but not all of them are good ones. We all have our share of embarrassing, devastating, and life-changing mistakes that we could never take back. Some we regret until we die, some we learn to accept. Over time, we ponder on our decisions and wish we hadn’t done them as we cry ourselves to sleep. Once your insecurities get the better of you, you’re going to be afraid to make shortcomings, and sooner, afraid to take risks. These regrets of the past are limiting our beliefs and capabilities turning over a new leaf, therefore, preventing us to grow. The deeper we dwell on our mistakes, the less motivated we are in embracing our flaws. And little as we know it, we’ve already lost respect for ourselves; and that is the worst mistake of all.
We all have those days when we feel like nothing when we get too good at telling ourselves we’re never going to be good enough. The feeling of worthlessness doesn’t come instantly; it’s rather an accumulation of negative feelings that come usually during a bad day and sumps up when we’ve reached the limit of what we can tolerate in our self-esteem. This feeling is very common in your twenties and it hits you where you least expect it. There will come a day when everyone around you got everything they wanted, and their happiness just causes you pain, and you hate yourself for it.
One way or another, that feeling of being unworthy of everything is bound to happen, and there’s no way you can prepare for it. Strangely, some people experienced getting that feeling when they’re only a few steps away from achieving their goal and unfortunately, gave up. It’s so powerful, most are willing to throw away years of grinding and hustling to that voice of deceit.
Negative thoughts come from a place of self-pity and insecurity inside us, because who wants to be remembered as someone who failed right? Nobody would want that, especially in your twenties. We’re pressured to excel and never to fail because if you will, you’re branded as a failure for life. When making choices, we’re taught to always choose the least dangerous one, the least risky one, or the choice that so far guarantees our desired results.
The first step in achieving any dream is believing you have what it takes to make it happen. You need to find something to depend on and gain strength from, whether that’s an experience you went through or a compliment a stranger told you five years ago. Without that vital sliver of faith in yourself, you wouldn’t be able to move mountains (even when you have the power to). Confidence can be your greatest tool in the face of uncertainty; it is a very powerful force to be reckoned with. It can take years to mold and fortify, but when you do, you’re bound to survive anything.
We all meet people for a reason. Whether they’re a blessing or a curse depends on how quickly we realize their true intention or how gravely their impact on our lives. No matter how many times we avoid being in any way affiliated with people whom we know are not good for us, life will interfere and ruin all our efforts. There will always be a reason why you had to meet an asshole and probably be really good friends with him or why you had to lose the only best friend you had after graduating high school.