As scary as being at your breaking point may be, make a conscious effort not to be easily provoked. Remember, the key to winning is to stay calm and listen to your mind. When facing a critical point in your relationship, how you react defines the outcome. Whether your relationship with your family or friends works out or not depends on you, not on anybody else. So, if what you want is to sort out all the obstacles and not to lose something you treasure deeply, don’t let your emotions get the best of you. Pride is the worst enemy that you can’t easily shrug off your back.
Healthy relationships are formed not because both persons in it are good-natured and perfect. They are created because two people chose to work it out despite the odds. All relationships have series of challenges to go through, no exemption. They have their ups and downs. It takes intention, compromise, love, and commitment to take care of your relationship.
Everyone dreams to be in a healthy and long-term relationship until the difficult days come. It takes a lot of hard work and patience for a relationship to work and maintain long-term. Unfortunately, not everyone is willing to sacrifice for the person they love. Not everyone is ready to compromise when dilemmas come out of nowhere. It seems that everybody wants the pretty side of love until they face the truth that it isn’t pretty at all. Nowadays, people see a long-term relationship as a luxury or a privilege because not everybody can maintain a relationship for years, or possibly until marriage. As sad as this sounds, this is reality.
Friendships are one of the most magical beginnings in the world, but not everyone has the luxury of experiencing such. They can happen when one of your mutual friends introduces you or when you’re standing in line and she offered you a tissue after somebody spilled hot tea on your shirt. There are even times when you first look at a person and think you’re never going to be friends with him/her because you two are so different on the surface, but with hindsight, you would’ve had the best time of your life.
Some friendships are also born when your long-time enemy turns out to be your ride-or-die bitch. There are also instances when you know somebody for so long and wonder why the two of you were never friends, but maybe it’s because nobody ever made the first move. If you’re someone who has a knack for making friends, then it probably means you’re a good conversationalist too because it mostly starts with a simple conversation. But regardless of how these friendships start, you rarely see them peak when you reach your twenties (especially when you didn’t have that strong of a bond when you were young).
We are all capable of being rude as we are all capable of getting angry. Some find being rude as something natural in their personality and cover it behind the word “strong” personality. On the other hand, some people think they only resort to being rude more like a defense mechanism when they’ve been getting the foul treatment and somehow they need to level the playing field. While some act rude when they get upset because they’re not getting what they want.