We are all capable of being rude as we are all capable of getting angry. Some find being rude as something natural in their personality and cover it behind the word “strong” personality. On the other hand, some people think they only resort to being rude more like a defense mechanism when they’ve been getting the foul treatment and somehow they need to level the playing field. While some act rude when they get upset because they’re not getting what they want.
Change your nasty attitude because it’s the only way to live a better life for yourself. If you continue to live a life with a horrible personality, no one will ever want to get to know you. When you get older, no one will come to visit you when you’re sick. No one will give you food when you run out. No one will be there for you when you’re dead. What you give to others will eventually come back to you.
Entering a relationship is your choice and it should still be yours if you leave. Your fate should not suffer because other people think leaving him is the wrong decision to make. If the breaking up is mutual, think about what’s best for both of you, but if it’s not, prioritize your well-being first. Don’t ever let someone pressure you into doing something so personal and sensitive. An outsider’s opinion on your relationship is irrelevant and insignificant simply because he is not the one who committed nor is he a part of the highs and lows; therefore, he has no right to speculate.
Above anything else, choose to be with him. Words are cheap when they’re not backed up with action. Don’t leave him on his weakest days because he’s broken. Humans, in general, are meant to be broken so they can experience a breakthrough. Your relationship isn’t true and strong if you leave because you’re not open to this side of him. He doesn’t have to be always strong and manly for you, and vice versa.
Being in a relationship with someone is never smooth-sailing, most especially in the beginning (after all that best foot forward act). Whatever it is that deals with human interaction, it’s never simple. Just because it’s a relationship composed of two good individuals, doesn’t mean both of them are going to have it easy. Every relationship faces arguments and disagreements every now and then, no matter how in sync you think they are.
Like any other relationship, it needs constant understanding and patience from both parties to achieve the desired goal of mutual agreement. The process isn’t going to be pretty; that’s just the way it is. Everybody always wants his/her needs to be met first (and thinks he/she deserves more compromise than the other) and that’s normal for a person to think that way because we’re wired by instinct to cater to our self-interest needs first.