When you feel insecure, remember that building confidence is a journey. It takes time to love yourself, to see past your scars and mistakes. But it won’t help if you keep tearing apart any form or progress of growth. It’s not enough to want to be confident, you have to apply it in your life by seizing once-in-a-lifetime opportunities.
Being anxious prevents us from thinking clearly and making rational decisions efficiently. It steals away our opportunity for growth and every chance we have at peace of mind. Moreover, it creates imaginary problems out of the wheel of negativity running in our heads the entire day. Being in this state of mind causes stress physically and mentally, and most times, we are in this position because we don’t know how to avoid instances like this, or we don’t know how to get out of this uneasy situation.
In your twenties, you get anxious about possibly everything. You want things to go smoothly, exactly according to the way we want (but you know it won’t happen, and even if it will, it wouldn’t last very long). Your expectations in your life and the world you live in contribute a huge factor as to why you’re always pressuring yourself to be everything to everybody. You want to make a difference in the lives of those around you, but you also want to be the best in your field no matter what it takes (and the harsh irony here is: you can’t have the best of both worlds).
It’s essential to learn how to become independent before you turn 20, so you wouldn’t be stuck in a rut when the time comes. You are officially not a teenager which means you have non-teenager priorities now, including some extremely important responsibilities. You need to do things on your own. In your twenties, you have to explore life and discover the realities that have been kept from you by your parents. It sucks to learn from scratch, but it’s part of the learning process.