There is no top secret or magic formula to getting ahead in life. Each and everyone’s unique beginnings can be a challenge to pursuing our goals because there is no equal playing field to stand on. Some are born with the wealth to catapult them to instant success, while some can only take advantage of very limited resources. Either way, success depends more on work ethic and grit rather than the abundance of your resources. The sky is the limit for successful people because they do what the majority of people are too scared to do.
As scary as being at your breaking point may be, make a conscious effort not to be easily provoked. Remember, the key to winning is to stay calm and listen to your mind. When facing a critical point in your relationship, how you react defines the outcome. Whether your relationship with your family or friends works out or not depends on you, not on anybody else. So, if what you want is to sort out all the obstacles and not to lose something you treasure deeply, don’t let your emotions get the best of you. Pride is the worst enemy that you can’t easily shrug off your back.
The secret to being happy for others’ success is to have the confidence that you will have your season of success at the right time. It’s accepting the reality that everyone has different timelines in life. It is understanding that clapping for others’ achievements while waiting for yours to happen doesn’t make you small. It is focusing on improving your skills and attitude while going through a series of challenges towards your goals. The whole secret to being open-minded and supportive of your peers’ successes is by discerning that their wins do not take away your chances of succeeding. Just because they’re enjoying the result of their hard work first doesn’t mean you won’t have your time to shine. Remember that patience is a fundamental virtue and is the very foundation of your dreams that takes you places.
To avoid stress from entering your life, you need to stop doing things that enable it in the first place. In your twenties, it is crucial to commit to a healthy, well-balanced lifestyle. This involves daily meditation and assessment of your thoughts, emotions, and relationships to practice accountability for your actions. Make it a habit to reflect on the way you handled a situation and assess whether it’s good behavior or a bad one.
Negative thoughts come from a place of self-pity and insecurity inside us, because who wants to be remembered as someone who failed right? Nobody would want that, especially in your twenties. We’re pressured to excel and never to fail because if you will, you’re branded as a failure for life. When making choices, we’re taught to always choose the least dangerous one, the least risky one, or the choice that so far guarantees our desired results.