To avoid stress from entering your life, you need to stop doing things that enable it in the first place. In your twenties, it is crucial to commit to a healthy, well-balanced lifestyle. This involves daily meditation and assessment of your thoughts, emotions, and relationships to practice accountability for your actions. Make it a habit to reflect on the way you handled a situation and assess whether it’s good behavior or a bad one.
The biggest mistake people make is to waste time on insignificant things that don’t do them good. Time is the most precious asset in life. It’s something we can never take back, rewind, or freeze. It’s a treasure that holds the most value, yet ironically, we don’t exactly know how to use it right. Every day for the rest of our lives, we’re forced to face this time management conundrum as if we’re this perfect individual who knows what to say or act all the time.
Building confidence is a long-lasting struggle that everyone goes through in life. It takes conscious, intentional efforts to steer away from people who enjoy suppressing our self-esteem until there’s none left. It takes courage to isolate yourself from the noise of the world, so you can have time to reflect on yourself. Truth be told, no one is born confident.
Everyone has his own inner critic who discredits your accomplishments and frowns on your failures to the brink of insanity. This is where the power of confidence comes in — it restores the faith in yourself and erases the negative energy in your body. When you’re confident, you start to see the world from the lens of someone worthy and proud of how far he has come.
When you master the art of preaching affirmations and perform it regularly, you gradually understand yourself on a deeper level. You delve more into the nooks and crannies of your inner being and start asking questions that you usually avoid. These affirmations will grasp your mind to recognize the hidden parts of yourself that are not so pretty (and are often the fuels of your self-doubt and the sources of limiting beliefs). Furthermore, you will be more connected with your self-identity because you are now more aware of your strengths, weaknesses, capabilities, fears, and trigger points.
Once you get a hold of these negative attributes that get in the way of your decision-making process, you can nitpick which values need to be challenged first. You can construct counter-narratives against the philosophies that are engraved in your mind and are harder to change. Additionally, you can create newer and more efficient thinking techniques on how to address problems.
As a result, you will start noticing long-lasting changes in your self-esteem because you finally confronted your inner demons, and not simply conceal them with facades that make you look perfect to others. Then, your intelligence and truthfulness to identity will radiate from within, and it won’t easily be destroyed as before because your confidence is not attached to earthly possessions nor the validation of other people, but from who you are as a person.
We all have those days when we feel like nothing when we get too good at telling ourselves we’re never going to be good enough. The feeling of worthlessness doesn’t come instantly; it’s rather an accumulation of negative feelings that come usually during a bad day and sumps up when we’ve reached the limit of what we can tolerate in our self-esteem. This feeling is very common in your twenties and it hits you where you least expect it. There will come a day when everyone around you got everything they wanted, and their happiness just causes you pain, and you hate yourself for it.
One way or another, that feeling of being unworthy of everything is bound to happen, and there’s no way you can prepare for it. Strangely, some people experienced getting that feeling when they’re only a few steps away from achieving their goal and unfortunately, gave up. It’s so powerful, most are willing to throw away years of grinding and hustling to that voice of deceit.