Gratitude is the one quality that people find the hardest to embody because once they earn more, they lose it. When a person gains success or popularity, it gets harder to detach from the source where you get open validation. It’s challenging to not want more when you’ve experienced a better type of lifestyle or treatment.
Healthy relationships are formed not because both persons in it are good-natured and perfect. They are created because two people chose to work it out despite the odds. All relationships have series of challenges to go through, no exemption. They have their ups and downs. It takes intention, compromise, love, and commitment to take care of your relationship.
Toxic friendships can be difficult to identify or resist when a third party confronts you about it, especially when you’ve known someone for so long. Of course, your first instinct would be to defend your friend (whom he calls toxic) in the name of your friendship for how many years. You wouldn’t immediately believe it when somebody says your friend is toxic to you. You need to give your friend the benefit of the doubt.
You would need to consider his upbringing, family issues, past life choices, and every little factor that can justify why he’s the way he is. You need to be a friend. After all, this third party wouldn’t possibly know everything that happens in your friendship, right? He doesn’t even probably know how you two became friends, where your favorite hangout spots are, what the first three secrets you told each other, etc. Long story short, he wouldn’t know the nitty-gritty of your friendship.
Fake love can’t be fake because one of you is untrue. Your relationship can form a fake love because its foundation is fake from the very core. Both people in the relationship have unreal/impure intentions of being together, and that’s why their broken connection leads them to break themselves in the process. If you don’t filter and fix the problems early on, you’ll likely harvest a fake, toxic persona from your partner and yourself.
As you enter your twenties, one of your the plans that cross your mind will probably be finding a good partner for life. At some point in this new chapter of your life, you want to meet and be with a person who will love and stay with you despite the ugly parts of yourself. You want to invest in a person who’ll fight for you and support all your goals in life. You want to finally make a decision to settle with someone who’ll be there when you need a shoulder to cry on. Your other half, as they say.