When life goes south, the circumstances force us to feel helpless and weak. All we see is a never-ending phase of darkness. During these times, we lose confidence in our abilities because we blame ourselves for being in a situation that’s out of our control. It feels like we’re running an endless marathon with the whole world on our shoulders. We stand and watch our future slowly burning before us, and we have no choice but to hope all our problems would disappear. This may seem like the worst nightmare that comes only once for most of us. But for some people, this is real life. This nightmare plays day-in and night, without any hint of stopping.
Building confidence is a long-lasting struggle that everyone goes through in life. It takes conscious, intentional efforts to steer away from people who enjoy suppressing our self-esteem until there’s none left. It takes courage to isolate yourself from the noise of the world, so you can have time to reflect on yourself. Truth be told, no one is born confident.
Everyone has his own inner critic who discredits your accomplishments and frowns on your failures to the brink of insanity. This is where the power of confidence comes in — it restores the faith in yourself and erases the negative energy in your body. When you’re confident, you start to see the world from the lens of someone worthy and proud of how far he has come.
A toxic relationship can be in any shape or form, and it can look differently for each one of us. Some may label a toxic relationship only when physical violence is involved while some may argue otherwise. Others would think a relationship becomes toxic only when cheating is involved. Regardless of how one would define and measure the degree of toxicity in a relationship, if you’re in it, you still lose one way or another. It’s hard to admit that an outsider’s opinion is true because it makes you feel stupid and naïve for not realizing you’re a victim in your relationship.
When writing a novel, the hardest part of the process as an amateur writer is undoubtedly the writing of drafts. It’s already hard enough to allow your story to come to life, but the people’s unrealistic assumptions about what a draft should look like make it even harder. Here are some of the wildest assumptions about first drafts:
A draft should contain the proper structure and plot.
A draft should be perfectly written.
A draft should have the right grammar, spelling, verb tense, etc.
Good drafts do not need any revisions.
Successful and experienced authors write first drafts as perfect as the final revision.