The secret to being happy for others’ success is to have the confidence that you will have your season of success at the right time. It’s accepting the reality that everyone has different timelines in life. It is understanding that clapping for others’ achievements while waiting for yours to happen doesn’t make you small. It is focusing on improving your skills and attitude while going through a series of challenges towards your goals. The whole secret to being open-minded and supportive of your peers’ successes is by discerning that their wins do not take away your chances of succeeding. Just because they’re enjoying the result of their hard work first doesn’t mean you won’t have your time to shine. Remember that patience is a fundamental virtue and is the very foundation of your dreams that takes you places.
It’s essential to learn how to become independent before you turn 20, so you wouldn’t be stuck in a rut when the time comes. You are officially not a teenager which means you have non-teenager priorities now, including some extremely important responsibilities. You need to do things on your own. In your twenties, you have to explore life and discover the realities that have been kept from you by your parents. It sucks to learn from scratch, but it’s part of the learning process.
Pat yourself on the shoulder in the face of failure. That means you’re moving forward. That means you’re trying. That means you’re not in the same place as before. Most people think failure is the end of success which is wrong. The mistakes you’ve made are a manifestation of your commitment to your dream. You’re getting out of your comfort zone and trying out new strategies to attack the problem.
Enjoy failure, especially in your teens. Enjoy the fact that you don’t know everything and you can’t learn everything in a single day. You need people to help you get out of that quicksand. Don’t be stubborn; you’re still learning like everybody else. Either in success or in failure, you need to constantly sweat, bleed, and suffer to grow. The reason you feel like giving up is that you’re still gradually transforming into somebody who can take it. You’re still in transition, embrace it.