Everyone has a bad side in them just as everyone has a good side. Who we are depends on Our whole system of beliefs and philosophies is built from our past encounters and choices that got us to where we are now. Among these are toxic habits that we picked up throughout our life that need to be challenged and erased. These are habits we’re ashamed of doing but don’t notice when we’re practicing them.
When we were kids, everything was easy. We didn’t have to take accountability for our actions. We were spoiled, sheltered, and protected from the horrors of the world. But as we grew older, we began to know and understand things. We became more curious about the whys and hows of the world, and what it has to do with us. And most of all, we started experiencing tough situations we haven’t encountered before. This left room for mistakes like associating with people who are not good for us. The longer we open our doors for them, the more we get sucked into their world.
Being toxic is not an innate human nature or a label to someone’s outlook in life. We are all capable of being toxic for we are all capable of feeling shame, guilt, fear, selfishness, etc. The toxicity of a person can stem from these negative emotions, and without willing intervention, the harder it is to regain oneself.
Toxic friendships can be difficult to identify or resist when a third party confronts you about it, especially when you’ve known someone for so long. Of course, your first instinct would be to defend your friend (whom he calls toxic) in the name of your friendship for how many years. You wouldn’t immediately believe it when somebody says your friend is toxic to you. You need to give your friend the benefit of the doubt.
You would need to consider his upbringing, family issues, past life choices, and every little factor that can justify why he’s the way he is. You need to be a friend. After all, this third party wouldn’t possibly know everything that happens in your friendship, right? He doesn’t even probably know how you two became friends, where your favorite hangout spots are, what the first three secrets you told each other, etc. Long story short, he wouldn’t know the nitty-gritty of your friendship.
Friendships are one of the most magical beginnings in the world, but not everyone has the luxury of experiencing such. They can happen when one of your mutual friends introduces you or when you’re standing in line and she offered you a tissue after somebody spilled hot tea on your shirt. There are even times when you first look at a person and think you’re never going to be friends with him/her because you two are so different on the surface, but with hindsight, you would’ve had the best time of your life.
Some friendships are also born when your long-time enemy turns out to be your ride-or-die bitch. There are also instances when you know somebody for so long and wonder why the two of you were never friends, but maybe it’s because nobody ever made the first move. If you’re someone who has a knack for making friends, then it probably means you’re a good conversationalist too because it mostly starts with a simple conversation. But regardless of how these friendships start, you rarely see them peak when you reach your twenties (especially when you didn’t have that strong of a bond when you were young).
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