Fake friends will turn you into a person you’re not, and you will find it hard to believe that you’ve changed because they have you wrapped around their fingers. Fake friends will like you only if you do what’s good for them. They like the expectation of you to become someone that can be of help to them; to them, you’re just a tool, an object they can use as they please.
Fake friends wouldn’t want to know more about you so they only pick one or two trivial, fun facts about you and persuade you that they already know everything there is to know. If you’re not vigilant enough, they can control your thoughts, your choices, and your other relationships in life. They can be very shady manipulators that will hit you in a place you’re not expecting, and it would be a rough life the longer you are attached to them.
Toxic friendships can be difficult to identify or resist when a third party confronts you about it, especially when you’ve known someone for so long. Of course, your first instinct would be to defend your friend (whom he calls toxic) in the name of your friendship for how many years. You wouldn’t immediately believe it when somebody says your friend is toxic to you. You need to give your friend the benefit of the doubt.
You would need to consider his upbringing, family issues, past life choices, and every little factor that can justify why he’s the way he is. You need to be a friend. After all, this third party wouldn’t possibly know everything that happens in your friendship, right? He doesn’t even probably know how you two became friends, where your favorite hangout spots are, what the first three secrets you told each other, etc. Long story short, he wouldn’t know the nitty-gritty of your friendship.
Losing friends is a part of life. Never think of it as a loss if you haven’t seen the big picture. It may not seem good to see a friend slowly drifting away from your life at the moment but it will work out in the end. When you get older, you will find yourself constantly assessing your relationships with other people, may it be with your friends, family, co-workers, and other people you associate with. Evaluating your relationships is a sign that you’re maturing and you’re walking on the road to mastering self-awareness.
Photo by Pixabay from Pexels In your twenties, you’ll experience way worse than you have in high school. You’ll be attacked by lots of different people; most of them you don’t even know. Many people will want to delay you from succeeding as much as they can. Many people will distort your vision and makeContinue reading “10 Real Reasons No One Likes You And What To Do About It”